this one being inspired by a special issue of people magazine, that i glanced through while at the orthodontist's office a few weeks ago. i'm not writing this from a standpoint of a self appointed expert....i feel more like a pioneer among my friends. they are either much younger, or possibly less superficial than i, and don't really care! i just like to share what i've figured out works for me, as i enter each new season of life. i love reading when others share too...so don't hesitate to share your tips and secrets! i hate to beg for comments, but lately it's been a little sparse! maybe i'm just not posting things of interest? i see lots of people reading though!
*b* list of beauty as you age:
- inner beauty is real. i know this is cliche, but that doesn't mean it's not so. since i have gotten into photography, i think this statement has become even more real and true for me. i can see this so much more clearly. it's difficult to photograph someone who is lacking inner beauty....their eyes tell the story. fortunately, i can only think of one experience that this was a real issue. typically, i seem to attract clients who have that inner beauty ; ) empty eyes, no matter how superficially beautiful the person seems, don't lie. your eyes truly are the windows to your soul. inner peace, joy and contentment show. if you really want to know how a person is doing, look them in the eye. i think that's why i find older women so fascinating to photograph....so many times, their wisdom, sparkle, and beauty are so apparent in their eyes. they are done playing games. it's real.
- be ready to change things up. according to an article i skimmed in people, (and i believe it's true), as we hit each season of life, the things that worked when we were 20 (or whatever younger season), aren't necessarily going to work now. i've changed almost everything...from hairstyle to makeup to how i dress. i have seen many people get stuck in an era, when they felt their best, and they can't move on. you know, how the 80's were for some! time to move on!
- less is more. i remember when i was in my 20s, reading about how, as women age, they should be wearing less makeup, not more. so true. more makeup, just accentuates what you don't want accentuated! recently, someone asked me if i wore eye makeup? at first, i was a little offended...but then, i thought, "maybe it's not such a bad thing, that they're asking?"
- use makeup brushes. don't laugh. some women may need to read this! as we age, using a brush for foundation is really important. it covers our imperfections (wrinkles!) more efficiently and gives a more finished look.
- don't skip skincare steps. cleanse, exfoliate, tone and moisturize. don't skip any of these steps! i mentioned in a blog post recently what a difference exfoliating has made in my aging skin....i use philosophy's microdelivery wash every morning and then aveda's face bar in the evening. the microdelivery wash has made a huge difference in my skin! huge! i used to peel and flake all the time (sorry if that is gross!) and now, my skin is much more smooth and clear. i also use 3 different moisturizers...one for my eye area, one around my lips and another overall. it takes seconds.
- keep up your haircolor. that doesn't mean that i think everyone should color their hair. but if you do, keep it up. i've noticed the older i get, the more often this is needed. i feel so much better when i keep it up. when i was younger, i could get away with having it done much less often. now, it's much more priority.
- facial hair. ha! a reality of getting older. be watchful and get rid of it! eek. also, i can't believe the difference it makes when i keep my brows under control. i just have them waxed every time i go to the salon for my hair. the way your brows *frame* your eyes, can make or break you! i never tweezed my brows when i was young. i thought brooke shields looked good, so why not me? ha! now i know how much better i look with nicely controlled brows.
- nails. because of the work i do with paint, glue and paper, i don't get manicures. i should, but i don't. i do however, use my nail buffing block. it gives me shiny, smooth nails, even if they aren't polished. i do get regular pedicures in the summer. right now, i need one badly! ugh!
- your undergarments. alright, i hesitate to mention this, yet again, but i have to! undergarments. you must make them a priority! a really great fitted bra is vital as you age! VITAL! if i sound superficial, i'm sorry, but this is important stuff for women to know! no one told me! not until i looked BAD! and if you are dressing in a form-fitting outfit, get yourself some spanx....and if they're too pricey, buy the knockoffs at target.
- don't feel guilty about taking a little time for yourself. don't forget about you. if you are so busy taking care of everyone else and ignoring your own care, you will eventually end up either burned out, or resentful, or both. you will be a better, more beautiful person, if you take a little time to refresh yourself. take a walk, get a pedicure, spend time with friends who make you glad you're alive, read a book, whatever makes you feel refreshed!
- remember your body is a temple. moderation being key here. eat right, get your rest, and get some exercise. it's not that i don't eat junk food. i do...i just don't exist on junk food. i eat a little here and there.
- most important of all: live with grace, humility, a clear conscience, gratitude, purpose and joy. cheesy, whatever. i believe it to be truth. i mess up all the time, but if i don't have goals and ideals to live by, i will flounder. i know, because i used to live without these things. i thought that if i was striving, trying to be good enough(not believing in God's grace), faking it, looking for "things" that would fulfill me, but never did... i was a mess. being at peace with the Lord, living with purpose, according to biblical principles, based on God's saving grace has given me more worth and peace than i've ever had before...more depth too. as much as a person's outward appearance starts to decline, the importance of having some depth becomes even more apparent. i hope to age gracefully, so that i become better and not bitter. i want to have the depth that my gram had...and now i see in my mom and aunts. a beauty that is much more multi-faceted and true, than just what you see on the surface.
i'd love to know your thoughts and tips!
i do have some photos to share of a beautiful family! tom and i have known mike since he was in our church's youth group! look at him now!
mike has done alright! they bought this cool, spacious log home on a gorgeous plot of ground in the country. so happy for them!
i think i've shared enough for one day! God bless each of you!